By Aubrey Thonvold
In the wake of all the fear 2017 has already manufactured in the lives of millions of Americans, ReconcilingWorks would like to invite you this Lenten season to reflect on the concepts shared in the book “Slow Church: Cultivating COMMUNITY in the PATIENT Way of JESUS” by C. Christopher Smith and John Pattison through the lens of LGBTQ welcome, inclusion, and celebration in your faith community.
“The primary work of Slow Church is not attracting people to our church buildings, but rather cultivation together the resurrection life of Christ, by deeply and selflessly loving our brothers and sisters, our neighbors and even our enemies. As we holistically embody Christ’s love, we find joy that we pray will draw people closer to Christ.”
Join ReconcilingWorks for the next 40 days in reflection and prayers for the LGBTQ community and others who are forced to live in the margins.
March 1 – 7th
“Hospitality isn’t a transaction or impersonal charity; it is seeing in the other the image of God, connecting to that uniquely precious person, and giving them the space and security they need to reveal their authentic self. The hosts also leave themselves vulnerable enough to reveal their won authentic selves.” (pg. 200)
Reflection: For members of the LGBTQ community, being our uniquely precious and authentic selves requires a tremendous amount of courage and vulnerability. Coming out is not something that happens once, but rather countless times a day. This can be exhausting. How can we as people of faith work to ensure our hospitality is one that creates “space and security” for others and not a hospitality that is “transactional” or “impersonal charity.” The gift we give to one another by seeing, naming, and caring for each other just as we are, precious and authentic, is life-giving hospitality.
Prayer: Creative and boundless God, may you give us each the courage and vulnerability to live our lives as our precious and authentic selves. Give us continuous opportunities to create the space and security for others to do the same. In your many names we pray. Amen.
March 8 – 14th
“Open-handed generosity and caring for the poor and marginalized as if we were caring for Jesus himself are extensions of our worship.” (pg. 175)
Reflection: Extending generosity with an “open-hand” means it will require strength and practice. Open your hand and hold your arm. How long can you hold that position before your arm starts to tire and you need to rest? For those living in the margins of our culture and church who often find themselves in a posture of open-hands and arms stretched out waiting for generosity and care from others to ensure their needs are met, this position is not sustainable. What can we be doing as people of faith in our daily lives to build and strengthen the muscles required to provide and receive generosity and care?
Prayer: God who lives in all places, we pray for the strength to be able extend “open-handed” generosity and care to all those who live with you in the margins. May your Spirit give each of us the endurance needed to live with open hands and extended arms as we reach for one another in generosity and care knowing that when we do so, it is an extension of our worship. In your endless endurance we pray. Amen.
March 15 – 22nd
“Hospitality connects us to a place, because while hospitality can happen pretty much anywhere, it has to happen somewhere. Hospitality requires proximity, and by definition, proximity implies nearness in space, time or relationship – all of which assumes certain limits. Accepting the boundedness, we begin the work of turning space in to a place of belonging.” (pg. 205)
Reflection: Let us all breath that in. Hospitality connects us to a place, place to proximity, proximity to relationship, and relationship to belonging, so in this end hospitality equals belonging. I have heard all too often people wondering in the life of the church “Why isn’t there more diversity in the Lutheran church?”, maybe to answer that question we should look at how a church extends hospitality. As the ED of ReconcilingWorks I am often invited to speak about the work of the organization, but the majority of the time, alongside an invitation is a disclaimer and request for me not to be too liberal, or too gay. There is a fear that by me showing up as my whole and authentic self, speaking to groups about welcome, inclusion, and celebration of LGBTQ people and their families, that I might upset someone who is not able or comfortable to name my identity with value. How can we be authentic and vulnerable in our belonging with one another when hospitality is extended with an asterisk and a spoken expectation that the person being welcomed can be present, but only if they fragment their identity for the comfort of others? How can we as people of faith stop requiring others to be less than whole in order to belong?
Prayer: God of all wholeness, may your Spirit blow strong and wrap each of your Beloved up tight, so all are able to move in the world as a whole person in courage and vulnerability. May we never be required to leave a piece of who you made us to be at the door in order to experience hospitality/belonging. In your endless name we pray. Amen
March 22 – 28st
“‘The myth of scarcity,’ as Walter Brueggermann has named it, is useful for subjugating peoples, and for helping the rich stay rich, and the powerful stay in power. This mythology is rooted in the fear of losing wealth, power, and privilege, which has led to gruesome results throughout human history.” (pg. 161)
Reflection: All too often I experience the church functioning and living from a place of scarcity. Living from a place of scarcity creates an inward facing posture. If the church is fearful there are not enough funds, rostered leaders, membership, diversity, or growth it makes me wonder where their focus and time is being spent. If hands are busy clinching pennies and minds are filled with ideas of there will never be enough, how could any organization or congregation’s actions go beyond their own front door? At ReconcilingWorks we believe that God calls all people Beloved, that the Holy Spirit gives a diversity of gifts for the common good, and that Jesus Christ calls us to work for justice. LGBTQ people and the diversity of this community’s embodiment offer the church a gift is has not yet fully embraced. How can we as people of faith stop functioning from a place of scarcity and turn out into the community knowing the key to the life of our church exists in those who have been pushed to live the margins?
Prayer: God of life and hope, in the gift of this day remind us that our hands are not meant to clinch pennies, but rather be used to work and care for others, remind us our minds are not meant to fear, but rather dream of your greatness. Help us to move from scarcity to abundance in the way we see people, creation, and the life of the church. For all that you are we give thanks, AMEN.