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Life at the Intersection

Baltimore, Maryland is my “home away from home.”

For five years, Baltimore was my home. I learned how to be a musician and teacher at Peabody Institute, learned how to live “on my own” with a lot of help from friends and neighbors, and taught in the Baltimore City Public Schools for one delightful year. On Thursday, April 23, I was back in “B’more” to attend an Alumni Reunion, and I stopped by one of my favorite “hangouts”: Ted’s Music Store, on East Centre Street. The present owner greeted me warmly as I looked over the four trombones that were on display. I was pleased that the store, after forty years, was in good and capable hands.

Four days later, in the rage and unrest that followed Freddie Gray’s funeral, Ted’s Music Store was damaged and looted.

My heart sank, and I felt trapped. In the town where I learned about harmony on a host of levels, disharmony reigned for a moment. I then realized when lives are stolen, destruction, violence and stealing property seems to be a reasonable option. Many reasonable people have said we need to have a conversation about race. That is all well and good, but it seems to me that any useful conversation needs to begin with trust. How might we cultivate and build trust in our communities?

Our upcoming ReconcilingWorks Assembly “Until All Are Free,” will be an opportunity to try out the temperaments and tools for building and cultivating trust. I will be facilitating a workshop on “Building the Beloved Community” at this event. Feel free to come, let’s build together – and, see you at the intersections!

Michael L. Cobbler, Board Chair of Committee Working at the Intersection of Oppressions

MN Lutherans Against "License to Discriminate" Laws

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ReconcilingWorks recently participated in OutFront Minnesota's Lobby Day, and in a direct action, marched to Minnesota Speaker of the House Kurt Daudt's office asking him to stop allowing bills that hurt LGBT people, their families, and black lives.

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As Lutherans, our faith teaches us to love God and love our neighbor, it is not our place to judge, and to treat others the way we want to be treated. While outrage grows over potential discrimination allowed by religious refusal laws in Indiana and other states, Minnesota lawmakers are considering a bill that is designed to roll back the anti-discrimination protections LGBTQ Minnesotans have enjoyed since we passed the Human Rights Acts in 1993, under the guise of protecting the "religious freedom" of business owners — and government employees — to refuse to provide services that have any connection to marriages for same-sex couples, including rental housing.

This bill, SF 2158, was introduced today by Sen. Paul Gazelka (R - Baxter).

We are calling you, as clergy and members of congregations in Minnesota, to speak out. Your state and community need to hear from people of faith on this issue.

  • We ask that you talk with your families, friends, and congregation members to let them know how your love for God and your neighbor leads you to advocate—in civil life, in teaching, in preaching.
  • We encourage you to let your community know discrimination is wrong by writing a letter to the editor of your local newspaper.
  • We suggest that educational forums be presented in your congregations and synods.
  • Please let us know what action you take by sending email to Tim Fisher at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

The 1991 ELCA social statement, The Church in Society: A Lutheran Perspective, provides a firm foundation for advocating in the public sphere, stressing the Christian’s “responsibility to defend human rights and to work for freedom, justice, peace, environmental well-being, and good order in public life” and to “recognize the vital role of law in protecting life and liberty and in upholding the common good.”

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Additionally, we highlight the ELCA’s commitments made in the 2009 social statement, Human Sexuality: Gift and Trust, declaring its support for “legislation and policies to protect civil rights” for all and, in our call to “welcome, care for, and support same-gender couples and their families” to also “attend to the need for equal protection, equal opportunities, and equal responsibilities under the law.”

Please join us in the work to ensure all lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Texans are able to live free of discrimination.

Please let us know how we can support you in your work of living out our Lutheran values.

Your partners in the work for equality,

Tim Fisher
ReconcilingWorks: Lutherans for Full Participation
Saint Paul, Minnesota
651.665.0861 

P.S. Please let us know what action you take by sending email to Tim Fisher at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

Gettysburg Seminary Becomes RIC

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The Lutheran Theological Seminary at Gettysburg, a seminary of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) located in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, has been designated as Reconciling in Christ (RIC). Gettysburg joins Pacific Lutheran Theological Seminary, the Lutheran School of Theology Chicago, and the Lutheran Theological Seminary at Philadelphia, as the fourth ELCA seminary to become RIC.

This means half of all ELCA seminaries are now RIC!

More information will come in the next Concord newsletter. Also, see the seminary’s news release here: http://www.ltsg.edu/about-us/news/2015/reconciling-in-christ

Deepening and Expanding the RIC Program During Times of Transition

 
Regional Coordinator (RC) Retreat:
April 10 – 12th ReconcilingWorks regional coordinators (RC) gathered from across the country for a weekend of renewal and visioning as ReconcilingWorks continues to live into the mission of creating welcome, inclusion, and equity for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people and families. Regional Coordinators, staff and Board Co-Chair Mike Crandall worked to create strategic, ambitious, and measurable goals that strive to deepen and expand the Reconciling in Christ (RIC) program.
René García
“The regional coordinators' retreat was transformative and inspiring; a Lutheran ‘revival’ for bridge builders working in the field to expand and magnify welcoming to all people.  I am especially thankful to all of the ReconcilingWorks supporters whose financial gifts helped bring us into the same room to be gathered, equipped, and sent back into the world committed to continue this ministry of reconciliation!”
 
–Rene Garcia
Houston, TX
Regional Coordinator for Region US-4
Paul JollyKaren Jolly“Paul and I were connected to the RC retreat only by speaker phone. While we could hear MOST of what went on, it was obvious from the start that this retreat is going to reap great rewards! The joy, laughter, gaiety and trust in the room was felt all the way to us in Oregon. This time together to renew and refresh is exactly what regional coordinators need on a regular basis.”
 
–Karen and Paul Jolly
Portland, OR
Co-Lead Regional Coordinators
Mike Crandall“It was inspiring to plan, dream, brainstorm, and get to know the regional coordinators. The RCs are the most direct and personal connection ReconcilingWorks has with members, congregations, synods, and chapters. Even though the geography and numbers are large – these talented and faithful ‘bridge builders’ are changing lives and the church”
 
–Mike Crandall
Dallas TX,
Board of Directors Co-Chair
 
ReconcilingWorks is committed to investing in the Reconciling in Christ program as it is a cornerstone in the organization’s identity.
 
Time of Transition:
 
Tim FeiertagAs ReconcilingWorks continues to strive for financial sustainability, the organization announces its final staff layoff. We thank Tim Feiertag for his three years on staff. Tim’s leadership has helped to shape the Reconciling in Christ (RIC) program and has trained hundreds of people who have attended the Building an Inclusive Church (BIC) training nationally and internationally.
 
“What a privilege it has been to oversee the Reconciling in Christ program the past three years. I am convinced that these congregations and faith communities will be seen as leaders in the ELCIC, ELCA, and beyond, as communities who know and live out the importance of preaching God's radical love within the public sphere, not only for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people, but to anyone who needs a specific word of welcome to know that God's love includes them” says Tim. 
 
“I know that God will continue to bless us all through the ministry of ReconcilingWorks, and I pray that generous hearts will fund this ministry, allowing it to respond to the immense need which still exists.”
 
ReconcilingWorks holds Tim in our prayers as he continues to seek a call to ordained ministry within the ELCA.  
 
WELCOME Leo Bancroft – New Region 1 Regional Coordinator
 
ReconcilingWorks is thrilled to announce the new member of the Regional Coordinator team. A Regional Coordinator is a bridge builder who believes all are God’s beloved, the Spirit gives a diversity of gifts called by Jesus Christ to work for justice.
 
Leo BancroftLeo Channing Bancroft (He/him), returned home to Oregon in 2009, after earning a Master of Arts in Theology in Berkeley, CA. While his day job involves solving technical problems, his passion is advocacy for both the HIV and LGBTQ communities. He is active in his congregation, St. Andrew Lutheran, as well as the Portland Metro Chapter of ReconcilingWorks, and enjoys training, preaching, and sharing his story to help make the church a safe and welcoming space. In September 2013, Leo came out publicly as transgender (FTM – female to male). He is transitioning surgically and hormonally, sharing that process publicly with gratitude to those who have lived “out” lives before him, whether with their sexual orientation, gender identity, or HIV status.
Leo Channing Bancroft
Regional Coordinator for Region US-1

ReconcilingWorks Statement on Anti-LGBT "License to discriminate" Laws

RFRA btn webFor over 40 years, ReconcilingWorks has worked for the welcome, inclusion and equity of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities within the Lutheran Communion and society. Our Lutheran faith shapes and informs our beliefs that God values and embraces each person as a beloved child, that the Spirit gives a diversity of gifts for the common good, and that Jesus Christ calls us to work for justice. On these grounds, ReconcilingWorks opposes and will work to defeat laws creating broad, harmful religious exemptions for private business owners, government employees and landlords, such as was recently passed in Indiana, that undermine existing legal protections for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Americans. Such laws violate both our Christian values and people’s right to equal protection under the law.

ReconcilingWorks calls on state lawmakers to provide full, statewide protections against discrimination of LGBT people.

The Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA), to whom ReconcilingWorks most directly relates, has taken strong stances in opposition to discrimination in housing, employment, and services due to sexual orientation. In its 2009 social statement, Human Sexuality: Gift and Trust, the ELCA declared its support for “legislation and policies to protect civil rights” for all and, in our call to “welcome, care for, and support same-gender couples and their families” to also “attend to the need for equal protection, equal opportunities, and equal responsibilities under the law.”

ReconcilingWorks believes freedom means freedom for everyone.  As Christians, we are called to love God and love our neighbor and to treat others as we would want to be treated. Religion should never be used as an excuse to discriminate or refuse to follow the law.

Please join us in the work to ensure all LGBT people, no matter where they live, are free from discrimination.

Lutherans Against "License to Discriminate" Laws

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As Lutherans, our faith teaches us to love God and love our neighbor, it is not our place to judge, and to treat others the way we want to be treated. While outrage grows over potential discrimination allowed by religious refusal laws in Indiana and other states, Texas lawmakers are considering at least 20 bills in the current legislative session that would subject lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people to discrimination and even criminal prosecution.

We are calling you, as clergy and members of congregations in Texas, to speak out. Your state and community need to hear from people of faith on this issue.

☻ We ask that you talk with your families, friends, and congregation members to let them know how your love for God and your neighbor leads you to advocate—in civil life, in teaching, in preaching.

☻ We encourage you to let your community know discrimination is wrong by writing a letter to the editor of your local newspaper.

☻ We suggest that educational forums be presented in your congregations and synods.

The 1991 ELCA social statement, The Church in Society: A Lutheran Perspective, provides a firm foundation for advocating in the public sphere, stressing the Christian’s “responsibility to defend human rights and to work for freedom, justice, peace, environmental well-being, and good order in public life” and to “recognize the vital role of law in protecting life and liberty and in upholding the common good.”

Additionally, we highlight the ELCA’s commitments made in the 2009 social statement, Human Sexuality: Gift and Trust, declaring its support for “legislation and policies to protect civil rights” for all and, in our call to “welcome, care for, and support same-gender couples and their families” to also “attend to the need for equal protection, equal opportunities, and equal responsibilities under the law.”

Please join us in the work to ensure all lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Texans are able to live free of discrimination.

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Preparing to Live into the Present and the Future

It doesn’t take more than turning on the news, opening a paper, or reading an online article to learn the freedom to marry for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people will soon have a national verdict. Over twenty years of dedicated movement-building has brought America to this moment, and while it will be a great victory, it is one of many that need to be won in order to make welcome and equality a lived experience for LGBT people and their families.

ReconcilingWorks knows this movement-building well. We have paved the way for over 500 Reconciling in Christ (RIC) congregations to publicly welcome people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. We worked to bring policy change to the ELCA in 2009 so that people in same-gender relationships may serve as rostered leaders. We have provided a witness to faith and justice in the ongoing movement for the freedom to marry.

Yet we know the conversation and work of living out the welcome and inclusion of LGBT people within the church is only just beginning. We see evidence of this in the need for the ELCA to convene a Working Group on how to minster to same-gender couples and families. We see evidence in the fact that only five percent of ELCA and ELCIC congregations are RIC. And we see it in the upwards of eighteen states whose legislatures are considering bills that would allow corporations and businesses to deny goods and services to LGBT people based on personally, deeply held religious beliefs.

As the landscape of our culture and our Lutheran communions shift and change, so must ReconcilingWorks. Our mission has been and will remain to embody, inspire, advocate, and organize for the acceptance and full participation of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities within the Lutheran communion and its ecumenical and global partners, striving to dismantle injustice and oppression. We will continue to work with church leaders at the national and congregational level working for full inclusion. We will continue to deepen and expand the RIC program in order for LGBT people and families to have a safe community to worship and to thrive. We will continue to bring a Lutheran voice of faith wherever injustice and oppression are present. ReconcilingWorks is committed to being a leader in the welcoming movement.

However, to meet the needs of the present and prepare ourselves for the future, we know we must revise how this work is done.

The ReconcilingWorks Board of Directors has approved a two-year strategic plan that focuses on the work highlighted above. This plan requires us as an organization to evaluate our programs and make changes to our staffing in order to ensure we remain fiscally sound as we prepare for the future. As a result of this transition, Brett Bowman and the Rev. Anita Hill have left the staff of ReconcilingWorks. From the depth of our shared commitment to our movement and work, we acknowledge and thank Brett and Anita for their faithful dedication to the mission of ReconcilingWorks.

“I’ve been involved with ReconcilingWorks as a volunteer since 1976,” Anita said, “and I imagine I’ll be old and long retired before my volunteer engagement with the ministry of ReconcilingWorks comes to a close. I hope to see hundreds of ReconcilingWorks members, donors, and friends at the 2015 ReconcilingWorks Assembly, July 30–August 2, at Augsburg College in Minneapolis, Minnesota. The theme, Until All Are Free, is close to my heart as I continue to work for LGBT and racial justice and equity.”

As God is doing a new thing in the church and the world, ReconcilingWorks is committed to aligning the staff and organization with the holy work and mission of welcome and inclusion that is before us, bending the arc of history for fuller equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people and families. Together, with you as our partner, ReconcilingWorks will continue to strive side by side with the Lutheran communion to make welcome a lived experience in our congregations and our communities.

By the grace of God,

Aubrey Thonvold
Interim Executive Director

ReconcilingWorks at the "Working Group for Ministry to and with Same Gender Couples and their Families"

Marriage ConversationsReconcilingWorks asks for your thoughts and prayers as we travel to Chicago to visit with the ELCA’s “Working Group for Ministry to and with Same Gender Couples and their Families” at the ELCA churchwide headquarters on Friday and Saturday.

ReconcilingWorks’ Interim Executive Director, Aubrey Thonvold, and the Revs. Ann Tiemeyer and William Hamilton will be making a presentation to the Working Group about ministering to and with LGBT couples and their families. The ReconcilingWorks team will speak to the great, continuing need for LGBT couples and families to feel welcome in the church and be accepted as they are. Other groups will also be presenting, including Lutheran CORE and various panels of clergy and laypeople gathered by the ELCA Working Group.

The Working Group’s mission is to encourage conversations and resource sharing throughout the church about this important ministry. You may recall, back in October, that the Working Group distributed a questionnaire to discover what conversations may be happening in your faith community and what resources might be needed to aid in ministry and pastoral care. To all of you who responded to that survey—thank you!

To learn more about the working group, please click here.

Please keep the ReconcilingWorks team and the Working Group in your prayers as they meet this weekend.

You, too, can take part in this conversation by posting to Facebook or Twitter using the hashtag #ELCAConvo

How should congregations welcome, care for, and support LGBTQ people and their families?

What is your congregation’s role in supporting children with LGBTQ parents?

Would it be helpful to have a wedding liturgy provided by the ELCA that is appropriate for all couples, including LGBT couples?

 

Georgia Clergy Unite to Oppose Religious Refusal Bills


WilliamFlippin3smallerA diverse group of Georgia faith leaders gathered at the Georgia State Capitol on Tuesday, January 14, to call on state legislators to oppose divisive religious refusal bills being proposed and introduced in the upcoming session of the state legislature. If passed, these bills could be used to refuse goods, services, and employment to LGBT people based solely on their sexual orientation, identity, or expression.

The clergy announced the release of a letter signed by more than 60 religious leaders from across the state, warning state lawmakers about the dangerous potential for an increase in discrimination against people of all backgrounds.

“We strongly oppose giving for-profit corporations religious rights that could allow them to discriminate against employees based on any characteristic—from their religious practices to their sexual orientation. This principle harkens back to the civil rights movement and our nation’s core values of equality and justice,” the letter reads, in part.


“We believe that love of neighbor guides our standing today” said Rev. William Flippin, Jr., pastor of Emmanuel Lutheran Church in Atlanta, Georgia. “This RFRA [Religious Freedom Restoration Act] bill infringes on ethics and our love of neighbor.”


The Rev. Flippin also said, “We are here united for a common purpose. Religious freedom is a deeply resonant American principle. In fact, it is one of the most fundamental rights as Americans. From the first Puritans who arrived in Massachusetts because of religious persecution, we are protected in the Constitution on religious freedom and expression. We all know that freedom is a great responsibility – to protect, to uplift, to enlighten. But, also, it is the responsibility of freedom that we not harm others. That's why I stand today opposing House Bill 29. As a Lutheran pastor of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, I share with these great faith leaders their universal values. Our ethics of the way we treat others should reflect the way we want to be treated based on the universal love of our creator. Laws that are created or interpreted that go against that principle in harming any group, goes against that principle, hurting us all.”

ReconcilingWorks thanks Pastor Flippin, and all the clergy that participated, for their work and witness.


Go here for the full text of the clergy letter as well as a list of its signers.

See the press conference on YouTube.   See below for a transcript of Pastor Flippin's remarks.

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WilliamFlippin2smallerWe are here united for a common purpose. Religious freedom is a deeply resonant American principle. In fact, it is one of the most fundamental rights as Americans. From the first Puritans who arrived in Massachusetts because of religious persecution, we are protected in the Constitution on religious freedom and expression. We all know that freedom is a great responsibility – to protect, to uplift, to enlighten. But, also, it is the responsibility of freedom that we not harm others.

That's why I stand today opposing House Bill 29. As a Lutheran pastor of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, I share with these great faith leaders their universal values. Our ethics of the way we treat others should reflect the way we want to be treated based on the universal love of our creator. Laws that are created or interpreted that go against that principle in harming any group, goes against that principle, hurting us all

As people of faith, we must fill our frames with not only the Ten Commandments, but with the Great Commandment that Jesus gave all of us, as well as all the virtues of a Spirit-led life. It's true that the commandments contain a list of rather daunting ‘thou shalt nots’ but these ten rulings are not meant to drag us down into negativity. In fact, they are intended to give us a very positive framework for the living of our lives.

The first four commandments provide us with guidance for our relationship with God, and the last six explain what it means to have a healthy relationship with each other.

We are standing for the principles of the Constitution: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, which the First Amendment protects. But we believe that the love of neighbor is the framework of justice that guides my standing today.

You can think of the Ten Commandments as being two pictures instead of one. After all, God used two tablets of stone to deliver the commandments of Moses. The worship of God's majesty: that's picture one. And love of one another, that's picture two. They are equally beautiful, equally innovative, equally well crafted. No doubt Jesus had this two-frame approach in mind when he said that the greatest commandment calls us to both love your God and to love your neighbor as yourself.

As an ELCA pastor, I first understood this in making a volatile stand in support of the sexuality statement in my first call in the deep south, in Columbus Georgia, supporting clergy in same-sex partnerships. Clearly, these commandments are designed to help us, not to hurt us. That's why we need to tap into the source of energy and security when we worship God rather than the powers of the world.

The very same can be said for the second frame of the Ten Commandments. Despite the repeated ‘thou shalt nots’ that it contains, there's an enormous amount of guidance and direction to be gained from these six final commandments, despite our natural tendency to rebel against any limitations on our human freedom. When we collide, which I believe House Bill 29 is doing, with the commandments, we are going to get hurt, period.

We’ll be hanging in public view as a frame without a message, a canvas without a painting. It’s as though we ripped out of the frame the very meaning of life, the very reason for which God has placed us on earth. When an empty frame, when our lifestyle, trumpets the values of consumerism and materialism, we sacrifice our well-being for the sake of material possessions. We present our own interests as being identical to God’s interests and attempt to legitimize our ideologies and positions by attaching them to the name of God. We fail to honor and respect our elders, we carry hatred and resentments in our heart against others.

We read the New Testament and come across the great commandment of Jesus to love God and love neighbor. It is important to see the two tablets of the Ten Commandments and to post them prominently on your heart and mind. On one tablet you have the first four commandments concerning your relationship with God. And on the other, you have the last six commandments concerning your relationship with neighbor.

The Georgia discriminatory Religious Freedom Restoration Act infringes and violates the core of human ethics in our relationship with our neighbor. On one side is God; on the other side is neighbor. Both are important, both are God’s will, both are found throughout the Bible. Old Testament and New: both are close to the heart of Jesus. Let us join together with these very important sides shaping my experience as a Lutheran clergyman and know that, as Dr. Martin Luther King said, ‘We are all tied together in a single garment of destiny, in an inescapable network of mutuality.’ Thank you.

Rev. William Flippin, Jr.
January 13, 2015
Atlanta, Georgia

Life at the Intersection | Dance With Me

Life at the Intersection

“Love and truth meet in the street,

Right Living and Whole Living embrace and kiss!”

Psalm 85:10, The Message

Peace and blessings to you all as we stand and work together at the intersections! It is sometimes difficult to hear or to find a good word in the midst of justice being deferred or denied. In my own disappointment and fear I was mostly silent, but then a few people who knew I was a bit too quiet reached out to encourage me to speak again. David Gates, in the song “If,” says it this way:

“And when my love for life is running dry

  You come and pour yourself on me.”

In this season of hope and expectation I wish to make an appeal – Let us think and act so that love and truth can, in fact, meet in the street, and Right Living and Whole Living can hug and kiss! Our devotion to God and our common lot as human beings call for no less than a repudiation to that which generates fear and demeans people. Can we craft a language that takes racial realities seriously without “whitewashing” it? Can we “pour ourselves” into the beloved community that God has fashioned for us, if we only embrace it and live it? Because of you, dear partners of faith, I am ready to dance again! Care to dance with me?

Michael L. Cobbler, Board Co-Chair of Committee Working at the Intersection of Oppressions

No One Is Free Until All Are Free

In response to recent questions about why ReconcilingWorks speaks out on matters of race—as well as on other issues, such as immigration, social class, culture, and global LGBT concerns—we point to ReconcilingWorks’ mission statement. We look to our mission as it informs and clarifies our inclusion of issues of racism as they occur alongside and overlap with LGBT issues:

“Working at the intersection of oppressions, ReconcilingWorks: Lutherans for Full Participation embodies, inspires, advocates, and organizes for the acceptance and full participation of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities within the Lutheran communion and its ecumenical and global partners.”

ReconcilingWorks, in our efforts to create safe space for LGBT people to worship and thrive in community, must focus on the root issues of injustice, inequality, and the violation of the core Christian belief that all life is sacred. Ending homo/bi/trans*phobia and heterosexism requires that we also dismantle racism in the world and in our hearts.

ReconcilingWorks proceeds from the Lutheran Christian idea that we are all called to care for neighbor and stranger alike. Scriptures call for hospitality and care in order to live up to the expectations of the 8th commandment not to bear false witness against our neighbor.

As a pastor married to my female spouse (after 20 years together), who has worked to reform church and societal policies that exclude LGBT people from life giving community, I am convinced that the oppression of any neighbor is part of the oppression I have experienced as a lesbian woman. We are compelled to address matters of injustice, brutality, dehumanization of others, whatever their skin color, culture of origin, physical or mental abilities, sexual orientation or gender identity.

Systemic racism ultimately affects the way LGBT people are treated, too. Whatever skin we live in, whatever orientation or identity we claim, we can stand in solidarity with one another. We can change systems borne in unexamined racism and make sure young black and brown men, women, and children can live free from policy terror and violence, mass incarceration, criminalization, marginalization, and murder by a corrupt system of injustice that cripples the human right to live as valued children of God.

God loves each of us just as we are created. Jesus taught us to pray. In the Lord’s prayer, we ask God to: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespassed against us.” Our request calls us to compassion and action so that all might be free of the “isms” that continue to oppress. No one is free until all are free.

Pastor Anita C. Hill, Deputy Director, ReconcilingWorks

Uncontainable Joy - A TransLutheran Story

lehmanUncontainable Joy.  For the last year and half, since I transitioned, I can only describe how I feel as having uncontainable joy.  I go about my daily life and am in such amazing awe of the gift that God has given me.  But, it wasn’t easy getting to this point.  My transgender journey began when I was 6 years old praying to God that He would make me a girl.  A pivotal faith moment for me in that journey happened 44 years later, in 2010.

In April 2010, I was driving to Albany NY from Philadelphia for the second straight day to attend the Empire Transgender Conference.  I had just come back from Albany the night before to attend my daughter’s high school academic awards banquet.  I left the house early and got back on the road to Albany, switching my attire from the suit and tie I wore the night before to a more appropriate skirt and blouse. 

While driving to Albany, I was listening to a narrative reading of the book of Luke on CD.   The narrator spoke about the amazing miracles that Jesus performed:  water into wine, feeding 5000, Lazarus, and Tabitha. I had been juggling my male family duties with my need to be female for several years, and it had become exhausting switching back and forth from male to female and hiding it from everyone. Listening to the CD during my drive, it triggered all my frustrations and I broke down crying and I began yelling at God that if Jesus could perform all these miracles, then why couldn’t He do something simple like let me live my life as a female. And when I say my life, I meant that I wanted to keep my marriage, my friends, my family, my career and my bowling team!

And so for the next 10 minutes driving, I yelled and cried and He spoke in a calm whisper.  After a while, I began to finally hear Him.  He was saying that He had a purpose and mission for me.   He said my mission was to become a woman and to be visible in the community so that it would help His mission to “Love one another as I have loved you”.   Of course, I had always wanted to be woman, but now God was saying to me that He wanted me to become a woman – and that it was my calling, my purpose – our mission together.  This now became very scary for me because there was the very real possibility that I would lose my entire world as I had known it.  I have so many transgender friends have lost everything.  Each week in church we hear how the disciples gave up everything to follow Jesus, but it’s a whole different thing when God asks you personally!    I realized through tear-filled eyes that I needed to give myself to God and pursue transition in earnest – to fulfill His mission.  I became convinced that if I just followed His lead, He would somehow make all this work out.

Over that summer, I started to follow a plan that I had developed during that car ride that day.  Simple steps like seeing a therapist, growing my hair out, getting out more in public to build confidence, laser hair removal, electrolysis, Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), and telling family and friends.  Over the next three years, with each step, God walked with me through fear, anxiety, pain, anguish, and joy.    

God then said it was time to transition and begin living my life as a woman.  My spouse, my pastor and I developed a plan to inform and educate our church family, which we had been part of for 25 years.  I also had plans to help my family, friends, work and bowling teams with the transition.  God sent many angels to me in the form of advocates and on June 9, 2013, I transitioned at church and was welcomed by the vast majority of the congregation.  With just a few minor bumps along the way, I have been wonderfully accepted by my family, friends, coworkers and teammates.

It’s been an amazingly difficult and wonderful journey during which my relationship with God has blossomed and grown.  My prayers that had begun so very long ago were answered.  My deepest desire has been given to me.   God, you are awesome.  Thank you for allowing me to experience uncontainable Joy.

Author Bio

Ms. Jennifer Lehman is a transgender woman who after a lifetime of hiding her true feelings executed a successful gender transition in 2013 to begin living her life as her authentic self. Ms. Lehman is a graduate of Gettysburg College where she majored in Physics, was in the marching band, on the bowling team and was chapter president of her fraternity.  She has been married for 30 years to her college sweetheart and has a son (26) and a daughter (22). Ms. Lehman is currently employed as an engineering manager developing innovative systems for the department of defense and she bowls competitively in two leagues.  Ms. Lehman is very active in her local Lutheran ELCA church where she teaches Sunday school.